Tuesday, December 29, 2020

Be gentle with your wife


               Be gentle with your wife
                           It's Sunnah


Be gentle 

"…And live with them in kindness…" (Quran 4:19)
Allah instructs every men to be nice to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability, In islam the relationship between husband and wife is a strong bond to be nurtured with kindness, love and mercy.


When you read about the Prophet’s behaviour towards of his wives, you will be amazed by the great level of care, gentleness, love and compassion he showed them.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Sayings About Wives   : Ibn `Abbas R.A narrated, the Prophet PBUH said.....

* The best among you is the best towards his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives. (Ibn Majah) - 
* The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.
* -O People! fear Allah with regard to your wives. You have taken them into your possession with the permission of Allah. 
* By assisting your wives in their household matters you men receive the reward of sadaqah.
* - Women are part of men.
* When you eat, feed her and when you dress, dress her; do not smite her across the face and do not boycott her but within the house. - 
* O Man! there is reward for you even in having sexual relations with your wife. 
* Conjugal relations with your wife is a sadaqah. - 
* If you spend an amount you will be rewarded for it, even when you lift the morsel to your wife's mouth.

💕 She Deserves the BEST Treatment

The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.
(At-Tirmidhi and authenticated by Al-Albani)

The best among you is the best towards his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.
 (Ibn Majah and authenticated by Al-Albani)

A believer must not hate a believing woman (i.e., his wife); if he dislikes one of her traits he will be pleased with another.” 
(Muslim)

The world is but a (quick passing) enjoyment; and the best enjoyment of the world is (to have) a pious wife.” 
(Muslim)

"Indeed, I will inflict difficulties on those of you who squandered the rights of two weak groups: (ie) orphans and women." 
(Narrated by Ibn Majah no. 3678, al- Albani in Ash-Shahihah no. 1015)     


Advice : Help the wife in the household work and do not criticize the shortcomings.

"O Umm al-muminin, what did the Prophet do when He is with you (in your house)?" Ayesha answered, "He does what one of you does when he is helping his wife. He rubs his sandals, sews his clothes and lifts water in a bucket." (Reported by Ibn Hibban no: 6406)

 * Avoid arguments or disputes with wives.

 "I will guarantee a house on the edge of heaven for anyone who leaves the debate even though he is right." 
(Narrated by Abu Daud no. 4800 and Al-Albani in Shahihul jami no.1464)


THIRTY (30) WAYS ON HOW TO TREAT YOUR WIFE IN ACCORDANCE TO ISLAM. 

1. Make her feel secure, don't threaten her with divorce. 
2. Give sincere Salams. 
3. Treat her gently, as fragile vessel. 
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere. 
5. Be generous with her. 
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart. 
7. Avoid anger. 
8. Be in (Wudhu) ablution at all times. 
9. Don't be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken. 
10. Be a good listener. 
11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing. 
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear. 
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the tongue. 
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings. 
16. Give sincere compliments. 
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family. 
18. Speak of the topic of her interest. 
19. Overlook small things, don't nitpick. 
21. Expect and respect her jealousy. 
22. Be humble.
23. Help her love your relatives, but don't try to force her. 
24. Remember your wife in (Du'a) prayers. 
25. Leave the past for Allah, don't dwell on, dig into, or bring it up. 
26. Don't act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
27. Take (Shaitan) Devil as your enemy, not your wife. 
28. Put food in your wife's mouth. 
29.Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect. 
30. Show her your smile. 

May Allah (SWT) make it easy for all husbands to practice these tips. Ameen.

Islam has given her a great and prestigious elevation. Yes she deserves love, care and affection. She deserve the best treatment. Islam teaches us many ways to keep her love. Express your love just like our Prophet PBUH has taught us.
Thanks 😊


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