बात करने के आदाब

01. फ़िज़ूल और ज़्यादा बातें करने से बचना :

कुरआन मजीद का इरशाद, 'लोगों की ख़ुफ़िया सरगोशियों में अक्सर व बेशतर कोई भलाई नहीं होती। हाँ अगर कोई पोशीदा तौर पर सदक़ा व खैरात करे या किसी नेक काम की तल्कीन करे या लोगों में सुलह कराने के लिये (मश्वरा वगैरह कर ले)।'

(सूरह निसा :114)

ऐ मुस्लिम बहन ! आपको इल्म होना चाहिये कि आपकी हर बात को लिखने वाले और उसे नोट करने वाले हर वक़्त मौजूद हैं, अल्लाह तआला का फरमान है : 'एक दायें तरफ और एक बायें तरफ बैठा हुआ है। तुम जो बात भी मुँह से निकालते हो, उस पर निगरान मौजूद है।'

(सूरह काफ़:17-18)

इसलिये बेहतर है कि आप जो बात करें बड़ी मुख़्तसर (छोटी), बा-मानी (सार्थक और बामकसद हो और जो बात मुंह से निकालें सोच-समझ कर निकाले!

02. कुरआन करीम की तिलावत करना :

कोशिश ये हो कि हर रोज़ कुरआन की तिलावत की जाये, कुरआन पढ़ना आपका रोज़ाना का मामूल बन जाना चाहिये। और ये भी कोशिश करें कि जितना हो सके उतना ज़बानी हिफ़्ज़ किया जाये ताकि क़यामत के रोज़ अत्रे अज़ीम, आला दर्जात और बेहतरीन मक़ाम से नवाजा जाए।

हजरत अब्दुल्लाह बिन उमर (रजि.) बयान करते हैं कि नबी अकरम (ﷺ) का इरशादे गिरामी है, “साहिबे कुरआन को कहा जायेगा कि (ठहर ठहर कर ) तरतील से पढ़ता जा और चढ़ता जा और इसी तरह कुरआन की तिलावत करता जा जैसे दुनिया में (ठहर-ठहर कर ) किया करता था, तेरी मंज़िल वहाँ होगी जहाँ तेरी आख़री आयत की तिलावत होगी।"

(अबू दाऊद: 1464)

03. हर सुनी हुई बात को बयान न करना :

ये अच्छी बात नहीं कि आप जो कुछ सुनें उसे आगे बयान करें, हो सकता है उसमें कुछ झूठ की मिलावट हो ।

हज़रत अबू हुरैरह (रजि.) बयान करते हैं कि अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) ने फर्माया "आदमी के लिये यही झूठ काफ़ी है कि हर सुनी बात को बयान करे। "

(सहीहूल जामे सगीर : 4482)

04. बड़ाई बयान करने से बचना :

फक्रिया कलिमात (गीली बातें) कहना और बड़ाई बयान करना और जो चीज़ आपके पास नहीं उसको अपनी मिल्कियत ज़ाहिर करना। अपनी ज़ात को ऊँचा दिखाने और लोगों की नज़रों में बड़ा बनने के लिये कोई अल्फ़ाज़ इस्तेमाल न करें।

उम्मुल मोमिनीन हज़रत आयशा सिद्दीका (रजि.) बयान करती हैं कि एक औरत ने कहा, "ऐ अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) ! किसी को बताऊँ कि ये चीज़ मेरे ख़ाविंद ने दी है जबकि उसने नहीं दी होती तो क्या ऐसा कहने में कोई हर्ज है?" तो अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) ने फर्माया, "वो ऐसा है जैसा कोई बनावटी कपड़े पहनने वाला हो ।” (यानी ये धोखा है, फरेबकारी है)।

(बुखारी : 5219, मुस्लिम: 5705)

05. अल्लाह का ज़िक्र करते रहना :

ऐ मुस्लिम बहन ! हर वक़्त अल्लाह का जिक्र करती रहा करो। अल्लाह के ज़िक्र से हर मुस्लिम के लिये बहुत से रुहानी, शख़्सी, नफ़्सी, जिस्मानी और इज्तिमाई फायदे हैं। किसी हालत और किसी वक्त में भी अल्लाह के जिक्र से गाफिल न रहना, अल्लाह तआला ने अपने मुख्लिस और अक्लमंद बन्दों की तारीफ़ करते हुए फर्माया, "वो अल्लाह तआला का ज़िक्र खड़े, बैठे और अपनी करवटों पर लेटे हुए करते हैं।"

(सूरह आले इमरान: 191)

हज़रत अब्दुल्लाह बिन बसर अल मुज़ाज़नी (रजि.) बयान करते हैं कि एक आदमी ने अल्लाह के रसूल  से कहा कि इस्लाम के उमूर बहुत हो गये हैं तो मुझे कुछ मुख्तसर (संक्षिप्त ) चीज़ बता दें ताकि मैं उसी पर अमल करता रहूँ, तो आप (ﷺ) ने फर्माया, "तेरी ज़बान हर वक़्त अल्लाह के ज़िक्र में मश्गूल रहनी चाहिये।"

( तिर्मिज़ी : 3375, इब्रे माजा: 3793)

06. बात करने में फक्र करना:

जब भी किसी से बात करना हो तो गुरुर से बचकर बुरे अल्फाज़ और तीखे लहजे में बातचीत न करना। ये तरीका और ये आदत अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) के नज़दीक नापसंदीदा है। जैसा कि रसूलुल्लाह (ﷺ) का फर्मान है, "क़यामत के दिन तुममें से सबसे नापसंदीदा मेरे नज़दीक वो होंगे जो बहुत बातूनी, बेतुकी, बनावटी और फक्रिया तकब्बुर की बातें करने वाले होंगे।"

(तिर्मिज़ी :1642)

07. ख़ामोशी इख़्तियार करना

ऐ मेरी बहन! आपकी ज़ात में अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) की आदते मुबारका की झलक मिलनी चाहिये। ख़ामोशी ज़्यादा इख्तियार करना, गौर-फ़िक्र करना और कम हँसना।

हज़रत सम्माक (रह.) फरमाती हैं कि मैंने हज़रत जाबिर बिन समुरह (रजि.) से पूछा, 'क्या आपका अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) की मजलिस में बैठना हुआ?' फ़र्माया, 'हाँ! आप (ﷺ) बहुत ज़्यादा ख़ामोशी इख़्तियार करते, कम हँसते, आपके अहा किराम (रजि.) कभी कोई दिलचस्प बात किया करते तो हँस लिया करते और कभी-कभार मुस्कुरा देते । '

(मुस्रद अहमद : 5/68)

अगर बात करना चाहो तो बड़े सलीके और नर्मी से, भलाई और खैरख्वाही की बात करें वर्ना ख़ामोशी बेहतर है। ये भी अल्लाह के रसूल (ﷺ) ने ही सबक दिया है, फर्माया, 'जो अल्लाह और क़यामत पर यकीन रखता है उसे चाहिये कि वो खैर की बात करे या फिर खामोश रहे।"

(बुखारी : 6018)

08. किसी की बात को काट देना :

बात करने वाले की बात काटने से रुक जायें और अगर किसी को जवाब देने का मौका मिले तो बड़े रुखेपन, उसकी हतके इज्ज़त (मानहानि ) या उसका मजाक उड़ाने के अंदाज में जवाब न दें।

हर एक की बात बड़े अदब और ध्यान से सुनें और अगर जवाब देना पड़े तो बड़ी अच्छे अंदाज और नर्म लहजे में जवाब दें। खुशी और नमी के अंदाज़ में जवाब देने आपकी शख्सियत से एक अच्छे इंसान की शख्सियत का इज़हार होगा।

09. बात करने में किसी की नक़ल उतारना :

बातचीत के दौरान किसी का मज़ाक़ उड़ाने से पूरी तरह बचें। अगर कोई बेचारी औरत बात सही ढंग से नहीं कर सकती, किसी की ज़बान अटकती है या किसी की ज़बान में रवानी नहीं तो उसकी नक़ल उतारने या उसका मज़ाक़ बनाने की कोशिश नहीं करें।

अल्लाह रब्बुल इज्जत का फरमान है, 'ऐ ईमान वालों! मर्द दूसरे मर्दो का मजाक उड़ायें मुमकिन है कि वे उनसे बेहतर हों, और औरतें दूसरी औरतों का मज़ाक़ उड़ायें मुमकिन है कि वे उनसे बेहतर हों । '

(सूरह हुजुरात : 11)

रसूलुल्लाह (ﷺ) का फर्मान है, 'मुस्लिम, मुस्लिम का भाई है। वो उस पर जुल्म नहीं करता, न उसको जलील (अपमानित) करता है और न उसे हक़ीर (नीच) जानता है। किसी आदमी के बुरा होने की इतनी निशानी काफ़ी है कि वो अपने मुस्लिम भाई को हक़ीर जाने ।'

(मुस्लिम : 2564)

10. तिलावत ख़ामोशी से सुनना:

जब कुरआन करीम की तिलावत हो रही हो तो अल्लाह सुबहानहू व तआला के कलाम का अदब करते हुए हर किस्म की बातचीत से रुक जाना चाहिये जैसा कि अल्लाह रब्बुल इज्जत का फरमान है, 'और जब कुरआन पढ़ा जा रहा हो तो उसकी तरफ़ कान लगाकर सुनो और खामोश रहा करो! उम्मीद है कि तुम पर रहमत हो । '

(सूरह आराफ़: 204)

To be Continue......

At least you are Trying!

 

That's a beautiful and encouraging message. Here's a way to expand on it:

"No matter what stage of life or faith you are in, it all counts in the eyes of Allah! Every step, every effort, every intention matters. Remember, the journey of faith is personal, and everyone's path is different. What truly counts is that you are trying, striving to be closer to Allah, and working on improving yourself. Don't be discouraged by setbacks or how far you still have to go. Allah sees your sincerity and effort, and that is what matters most. Keep going, for even the smallest steps are significant in your journey toward Him." 

This reminds people that Allah appreciates every effort, no matter how small, as long as the heart is sincere.

Encourage Women To Wear Hijab

Encouraging others to wear the hijab is a beautiful intention, and it can be done with kindness, patience, and understanding. Here are a few suggestions on how to inspire other sisters:

1. **Lead by Example**:

 By wearing the hijab confidently and with pride, you can serve as a role model. People are often inspired by the actions of others more than by words.

2. **Share Personal Stories**: 

Talk about your own journey with the hijab and how it has positively impacted your life. Your experiences can motivate others who may be hesitant or unsure.

3. **Provide Education**: 

Some sisters might not fully understand the importance or the spiritual significance of the hijab. Sharing knowledge in a gentle and respectful way can help them see the beauty in it.

4. **Offer Support**: 

If someone expresses interest in wearing the hijab, offer to support them through the process. Whether it’s helping them choose hijabs, teaching them how to style it, or simply being there for emotional support, your encouragement can make a big difference.

5. **Respect Their Journey**: 

Everyone's spiritual journey is different. Encourage them, but also respect their personal decisions and timing. Offer guidance without pressure.

6. **Highlight the Benefits**: 

Talk about the inner peace, sense of identity, and connection to faith that wearing the hijab brings to you. 

Your kindness and approachability can create a positive and supportive environment that inspires others naturally.

Your modesty is your true beauty

"Dear Sister,

Your modesty is your true beauty, shining far brighter than any adornment or outward appearance. It reflects the depth of your character, your strength, and your grace. In a world that often values the superficial, you remind us all that true beauty lies within, in the kindness you show, the humility you carry, and the values you uphold. Continue to walk in dignity and grace, for your modesty is the crown that makes you truly radiant."

Let me know if you'd like to personalize it further!

Know your worth

 This is a strong and meaningful message, reminding sisters of their inherent value and the importance of self-respect. Here's a more detailed way to put it:

"Dear Sisters, remember that you are the daughter of a respected man and, Insha'Allah, the future wife of someone who will honor and cherish you. Do not allow fleeting desires or empty promises from those who don't truly value you to compromise your dignity. Your worth is far greater than what any temporary attention or momentary affection can offer. Stay true to yourself, know your value, and trust that Allah has written something beautiful for your future. Guard your heart and your dignity, for you are priceless." 

This emphasizes the importance of knowing one's self-worth and guarding one's dignity for the sake of long-term happiness and respect.

Islamic dress is better than Western dress

The idea that Islamic dress is "better" than Western dress depends on the perspective, cultural values, and personal beliefs of the individual or community. In Islam, modesty is highly emphasized, and Islamic dress codes, such as the hijab for women and modest clothing for both men and women, reflect these values. For many Muslims, this form of dress symbolizes modesty, identity, and adherence to religious principles.

Western dress, on the other hand, is often seen as more flexible and diverse, allowing for a wide range of styles and expressions. Some view it as more aligned with individual freedom and self-expression.

Both forms of dress carry cultural, social, and sometimes religious significance, and each has its own context in which it is preferred or valued. Ultimately, the "better" choice varies according to individual beliefs, values, and the environment in which one lives.

Powerful picture

This a powerful moment of a woman, fully covered in her hijab, nurturing her child while simultaneously pursuing her own work or studies. It symbolizes strength, resilience, and the balance that many women maintain between their roles as mothers and their personal growth and responsibilities. It highlights the determination of women who strive to excel in all aspects of life, guided by their faith, all while nurturing the next generation. It’s a powerful representation of motherhood, education, and devotion.

Allah kehta hai....

ALLAH Farmata hai

Aye Musa main aulaad ke Zariye beti bhejta hun Jab main Behad khush

Hota hun...

Women In Islam

 Mothers: 

"And We have commanded man to be good towards parents; his mother bore him with hardship, and delivered him with hardship.." 

(Qur'an 46:15)

Wives: 

"Treat women well and be kind to them; they are your partners and committed helpers." 

Prophet Muhammed (pbuh)

 Daughters:

 "Whoever has daughters and treats them kindly, they will be a protection for him against the Fire." 

Prophet Muhammed (pbuh)

Marriage:

 "And among His signs is this: that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest and peace of mind in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Certainly, herein indeed are signs for people who reflect." 

(Qur'an 30:21)

Suno Bint-e-Hawwa

The message in this image is both meaningful and inspiring. Here's a translation of what it conveys:

"Listen, O Daughters of Eve,

Do not become like that book which anyone reads just to pass time and which is easily accessible to all. Instead, become like the book that is wrapped in a sacred covering, one that requires purity and ablution before being touched."

This quote is encouraging women to value themselves and maintain their dignity and self-worth. It suggests that they should not be easily accessible or taken for granted, but should be respected and honored, just as one treats a sacred text with care and reverence.

A Pious Woman

This hadith from the Prophet ﷺ carries a beautiful and profound message about the value of a pious woman. It can be expanded upon to highlight the importance of righteousness in women:

The Prophet ﷺ said, "The world is a provision, and the best provision in the world is a pious woman" 

(Sahih Muslim 1467). 

This hadith reminds us that while worldly possessions and comforts may provide temporary satisfaction, the true blessing and treasure in this life is a righteous and God-fearing woman. Her piety, character, and faith serve as a source of peace, support, and guidance for those around her. 

A pious woman is not only a blessing to her family but also a cornerstone of society, nurturing future generations in the light of Islamic values. She reflects the beauty of Islam through her actions, speech, and devotion to Allah. Therefore, striving for righteousness and embodying the qualities of a pious woman is among the highest goals a Muslim woman can seek.

Never marry a woman Unless , You see these Qualities in her

Yes, that's a good definition of Taqwa (piousness) in Islam. Here's a slightly expanded version :

Taqwa, in Islam, refers to the conscious and consistent effort to live one's life in accordance with the will of Allah. It encompasses :

 * Obedience to Allah's commands : This includes fulfilling the five pillars of Islam (Shahada, Salat, Sawm, Zakat, Hajj) and adhering to the teachings of the Quran and Sunnah.

 * Abstinence from Allah's prohibitions : This involves avoiding sins and actions that are displeasing to Allah.

 * Constant awareness of Allah's presence : A pious person strives to maintain a conscious connection with Allah throughout their daily life, seeking guidance and strength from Him.

 * Striving for inner purity : Taqwa involves purifying one's intentions and thoughts, as well as one's actions.

Taqwa is considered a cornerstone of Islamic faith and a key to achieving success in both this world and the hereafter.

The statement you provided is a positive one that highlights the importance of good character traits. Here are some additional points to consider :

 * Akhlaq is an Arabic term that encompasses a wide range of moral and ethical virtues. It is often translated as "character" or "morals" in English.

 * The specific virtues mentioned in the statement – honesty, kindness, patience, and integrity – are all important aspects of good character.

 * These virtues can be developed through practice and reflection.

 * People with good character are often respected and admired by others.

Overall, the statement is a positive one that encourages the development of good character traits.

The statement you provided accurately describes compatibility, especially in the context of relationships. Here are some additional points to consider :

 * Shared values : These are fundamental beliefs about what is right and wrong, important, and meaningful. Shared values provide a strong foundation for a relationship, as they guide decision-making and create a sense of common purpose.

 * Similar goals : Having aligned goals and aspirations means that both partners are working towards similar outcomes in life. This can create a sense of unity and shared purpose, making it easier to navigate challenges and celebrate successes together.

 * Harmonious and supportive partnership : Compatibility fosters a sense of ease and flow in the relationship. Partners who are compatible tend to understand and support each other's needs and aspirations, creating a positive and nurturing environment.

Overall, compatibility is an important factor in building and maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships. It's important to note that complete compatibility is rare, and differences can sometimes add depth and complexity to a relationship. However, having a strong foundation of shared values and goals can help couples navigate challenges and build a lasting bond.

The statement you provided accurately describes compatibility, especially in the context of relationships. Here are some additional points to consider :

 * Shared values : These are fundamental beliefs about what is right and wrong, important, and meaningful. Shared values provide a strong foundation for a relationship, as they guide decision-making and create a sense of common purpose.

 * Similar goals : Having aligned goals and aspirations means that both partners are working towards similar outcomes in life. This can create a sense of unity and shared purpose, making it easier to navigate challenges and celebrate successes together.

 * Harmonious and supportive partnership : Compatibility fosters a sense of ease and flow in the relationship. Partners who are compatible tend to understand and support each other's needs and aspirations, creating a positive and nurturing environment.

Overall, compatibility is an important factor in building and maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships. It's important to note that complete compatibility is rare, and differences can sometimes add depth and complexity to a relationship. However, having a strong foundation of shared values and goals can help couples navigate challenges and build a lasting bond.

The concept of modesty in Islam is complex and multifaceted. It encompasses both inner qualities and outward expressions. For women, it often involves dressing in a way that covers most of the body, such as wearing a hijab (headscarf) and loose-fitting clothing. This is seen as a way to protect women's dignity and avoid attracting unwanted attention. Modesty also extends to behavior, emphasizing humility, kindness, and avoiding actions that could be seen as immodest or disrespectful.

However, interpretations of modesty vary among individuals and communities. Some women may choose to wear a niqab (face veil) or an abaya (loose-fitting robe) in addition to the hijab, while others may opt for more modest clothing without covering their faces. 

The focus remains on maintaining dignity and avoiding actions that could be considered immodest.

Preserves modesty

"Beautiful is she who preserves her modesty not only in the sight of strangers but equally in the presence of those who know her well. Her dignity and grace are constants, unwavering regardless of who is watching. True beauty is found in the consistency of her character, where modesty becomes her most cherished adornment, reflecting her inner strength and faith."

The hijab is like Allah (swt) and a protection

That's a beautiful way to explain the hijab to a daughter. It conveys warmth, love, and protection in a way that's easy to understand. You could say something like:

"Sweetheart, wearing the hijab is like Allah (SWT) giving you a gentle, loving hug every day. It's His special way of protecting you and keeping you safe. Just like how we dress warmly to protect ourselves from the cold, the hijab is a shield that keeps your heart close to Allah and helps you show the world how special and strong you are."

This approach emphasizes both the spiritual connection and the sense of security the hijab offers, making it feel comforting and meaningful.

Keep Your Hijab Simple

"If your way of wearing the hijab attracts others, know that your hijab needs correction. Keep your hijab as simple as possible."

It emphasizes the importance of modesty and simplicity when wearing the hijab, aligning with its purpose of humility. 

 

Change yourself Only for Allah

That's a profound reminder rooted in faith and devotion. It emphasizes the idea that personal growth and change should be motivated by a desire to align with the will of Allah (God) rather than seeking validation or approval from people. This perspective encourages individuals to stay true to their values, beliefs, and spiritual journey, focusing on pleasing Allah above all else. In Islam, this aligns with the concept of sincerity (ikhlas) — that actions should be done for the sake of Allah alone. It speaks to the importance of spiritual integrity and staying firm in one's faith amidst societal pressures.

Symbol of modesty

Wearing the hijab is a symbol of modesty, dignity, and inner strength. It represents a sense of empowerment and devotion to one's faith, embodying the qualities of a true queen.

Parda

Parda

Allah Ki Razaa Ke Liye Parda Karne 

Waali Ladkiyan Kisi Saltanat Ki Nahi Balki 

Islam Ki Shehzadiya Hoti Hai.

Parda

Parda

Parda karna humari majboori nahi Balki 

humare qeemti hone ka Saboot hai... 💯

औरत को पसली से पैदा किया गया है

नबी करीम (ﷺ) ने फ़रमाया : -

औरत को पसली से पैदा किया गया है वह तुम्हारे लिए किसी एक तरीके पर हरगिज़ सीधी नहीं रह सकती, अगर तुम उस से फायदा उठाना चाहो तो उसी तरह फायदा उठा लोगे की उसमें कज़ी (टेढापन) रहेगा और अगर तुम उसे सीधा करने चलोगे तो उसे तोड़ डालोगे, और उसे तोड़ना उसकी तलाक है।

[SAHIH MUSLIM #3643]

यानि उसके साथ ज़बान दराज़ी करोगे तो अपना घर तोड़ बैठोगे, इसलिए तुम्हारे लिया बेहतर है कि बात को दरगुज़र करो ताकि घर बना रहे।