Show Affection towards your children

Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) kissed Al-Hasan ibn `Ali while Al-Aqra` ibn Habis At-Tamimi was sitting with him. Al-Aqra` said, “I have ten children and have never kissed one of them.” The Prophet cast a look at him and said, “Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully.” 

(Al-Bukhari)

Be Patient with the Children

When your children flood you with a thousand questions, answer them with patience! Showing mercy towards the kids is one of the simplest Sunnahs we can follow in our lives.

Be Patient with the Children

When your children flood you with a thousand questions, answer them with patience! Showing mercy towards the kids is one of the simplest Sunnahs we can follow in our lives.

Khel kood ka nazm aulad ki tarbiyat me

M).Tarbiyat ka 13th marhala

Khel kood ka nazm aulad ki tarbiyat me

Khel kood ka nazm bahut aham cheez hai yaad rakhiye, lekin aaj mukkamal is shobe ko humne khatm kar diya hai aur Khel khud ka koyi nazm hi baki nahi raha, jabki waledain unko khud aise khel khelwayen jisse unke sehat aur nashonuma hoti rahe, aur har waqt me har marhale me alag alag cheez unko khel waiyye jaise Swimming aap karwa sakte hai chote baccho ko, Cycling aap karwa sakte hai, isi tarah aise games jinse unke andar sehat barhti ho jaise aap unhki Doud (race) lagwaye, competitions karwaiye, ye bahut aham cheez hain yaad rakhiye isko mat bhulaye.

✦ Baccho ko Khel kood ki Ahmiyat :

Jab waledain baccho ke Khul kood par tawajjo nahi dete to wo mukammil khel khud me dub jata hai. jabki Waledain ko chahiye ke wo khud ko kahe chalo ab khelne ka waqt hai bete tumhara. Hum khelenge aur nahi hai tou aap dosto ko bulao hum khel karenge aapke sath ye hona chahiye. Yaad rakhiye ye nahi hoga tou bache bolenge are waledain ko kya samajh me aata hai.

Bacho me yaad rakhye extra energy hoti hai uska istemal karwana chahiye, aap nahi khelne denge tou wo kahi bhi jaker kuch bhi karke usko istemal karlenge. lihaja Usko khelne ke liye ek nazm banaiye, achcha sa aur yaad rakhiye muslim ki ek riwayat hai Aap (Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam) farmate hai “Taqatwar momin Allah ke yaha kamzor momin se zyada behtar hai.”

jabki khair tou sabme hai har momin khair hai.”lekin wo momin jo jismani aitebar se takatwar hai Allah ke nazdeek mahbub hai isliye kyun ki ibadaton me riyazaton me aur Allah ke deen ke liye zyada mehnat kar sakta hai banisbat kamzor momin ke, halaki khair tou sab me hai lekin achcha kaun hai mahbub jo zyada taqatwar ho.

tou khel kood ka inke liye nazm kare isi tarah isme competition karwaiye mukabale karwaiye.

✦ Bacchon me Competition karwaye:

Baccho me acchi sehat aur kuwwat ke liye aksar mukable karwaye, misal ke taur par aap 5-6 bhai hai jinke bache hai sabme competition lagwaiyye ke aaj jo falan kaam karega usko ye inam milega aaj jo fala khel khelegha usme jeetega usko ye inam milega, Is tarha ke competition karwaiyye.

Umar bin khattab (RaziAllahu Anhu) bacho me competition rakhwate they taaki jismani aitebar se khub nasho numa paye aur Allah ke deen ke liye jihad ke liye taiyyar ho. tou uske liye competition karte, kushti, tirandazi, tairaki (Swimming) aur ghode ki sawari ( horse riding) ke khel hote they tou ye khel unko khelwaiyye waladain is talluk se koshish kare isi tarah competitive exam me inhe le jaen, exam me inko shamil karwayen jahan tak ho sakey isse unme justaju paida hoti hain.

✦ Nasrani Badshah ke 4 sawal aur Abdullah bin Abbas (R.A.) ke Jawab.

Ek waqiya hai Ameerul Momineen Umar bin Khattab (R.A) ke Zamane me ek Nasrani badshah ne 4 sawal Ameerul Momineen ko likh kar diye aur kaha inke mujhe jawab do agar waqay me tum kitab ke hamil ho tou.

Ameerul momineen ne wo sawalat liye aur kaha Abdullah ibne Abbas (R.A) se kaha ke tum jawab de do.

Abdulla ibne Abbas (R.A) ne liya aur jawab dene lage.

Pehla sawal usne ye kiya tha ke Aisa kaun sa muqam hai duniya me jaha suraj ki roshni sirf ek bar pohchi hai aur ab qayamat tak nhi pahuchene wali ?.

Dusra sawal Kaun se 2 Judwa bhai hai Jo paida tou sath me huye aur mare bhi sath lekin umar me 100 saal ka farq tha dono me ?

Tisra faramaya Aisa kaun sa insan hai jo Qabr me ho lekin zinda ho, uski Qabr bhi Zinda ho usko lekar ghumti ho aur uske baad phir wo Qabr me se nikle aur tab bhi wo Zinda rahe.

Chautha Sawal: Aisa kaun sa jail (qaidkana) hai jaha mujrim ko sans lene ki ijazat nahi ?

ye 4 sawal badshah ne jab diye to fauran Abdulah bin Abbas ne sawal liye aur Badshah ko likh kar jawab de diye.

Abdulla bin Abbas (R.A) ne 1. pehla sawal ka jawab diya “Ye wo bahre ahmar ka hissa hai jaha se Musa (A.S.) bach nikle jo samundar khula roshni gayi ab Qayamat tak roshni nahi ja sakti samundar agaya wapas. Ab qayamat tak wahan roshni nahi jayengi.

2. Dusra sawal ka jawab diya Uzair (A.S) aur unka bhai, 3. tisre sawal ka jawab ye diya Yunus (A.S) hai jo machli ke pait me the jo ke ek qism ki qabar hai aur wo machli unhe lekar samundar me ghumti rahi, baad me lakar kinae par fenk deya .jab ke wo bahar Zinda nikle.

Aur chauta(4) sawal ka jawab diya ke “Wo Maa ki kok aur pet hai jaha bacha zinda tou hota hai magar sans nahi leta .

Jab badshah ko in sawalat ke jawab mile tou dang ho gaya aur kaha lagta hai abhi bhi inme koyi Nabi zinda hai. SubhanAllah!

To be continued …

Dost aur Ahbab ka kirdar Aulad ki Tarbiyat me.

Aulaad ki Tarbiyat – Part 10

L). Tarbiyat ka 12th marhala

Dost aur Ahbab ka kirdar Aulad ki Tarbiyat me.

Aulaad ki Tarbiyat me dost aur ahbab ka bhi aham role hai warna acche acche bacche bigad jate hain. Yaha walid ka ye kaam hai ki Humare bacche aur bachiyan kaha jate hain aur kaun kaun unka dost hai, unke Akhlaq kya hai unke muamlat kya hai wo kiske bacche hain unki kamayi kaisi hai ispar pura nazar rakhe aur dhyan dene ki zarurat hai.

Aaj kal dekha jata hai ke, baaz martaba baccho ko Maa Baap toka karte hain ke wo falah bache ke sath raho wo bohot Ameer hai. Subhan’Allah! aap Ameeri ko tarjeeh de rahe hai? jabki aap ko ye kehna chahiye ke beta Deendaro ke sath raho wo deendar hai us’se dosti karo aur bure baccho se door raho jo gandi gandi batein karte hain.

Aaj kal dekha jata hai ke, baaz martaba baccho ko Maa Baap toka karte hain ke wo falah bache ke sath raho wo bohot Ameer hai. Subhan’Allah! aap Ameeri ko tarjeeh de rahe hai? jabki aap ko ye kehna chahiye ke beta Deendaro ke sath raho wo deendar hai us’se dosti karo aur bure baccho se door raho jo gandi gandi batein karte hain.

✦ Acche dosto ka intehkhab kare

Aajkal Hum dekhte hai maaldar koun hai taaki humara baccha high society me uthey aur baithe ye sab falthu batein hain yaad rakhiye , jabki deendar baccho me rakhiye! Unke Akhlaq dekhiye kaise hain jin baccho me humara baccha aur bacchi reh rahi hain, unpar nazar rakhiye ke aise bacho me rahe jo ba-akhlaq ho ba-adab ho baqeerdar ho aur Achche khandano se taluk rakhte ho yaani nek aur deendar khandan. Warna Shaitaan Bacho ko bahut asani se uchak leta hai is muqam par.

Allah ke Rasool (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) farmate hai ek hadees ke andar ke “Aadmi apne doston ke deen par hota hai.” Matlab aadmi wo kaam karta hai Jo uske dost aur saheliyan karti hain tou aadmi apne doston ke deen par hota hai, lehaza tum me se har fard ko ye khayal karna chahiye ke woh kis se dosti kar raha hai.

Agar mai bada ho chuka tou mai tou samaj sakta hun ke mai fikr karu lekin jab bacche chote hain tou ye cheez samajte nahi hai , lihaja waledain fikr kare ke unki Aulad ka jo dost hai accha rahe aur apne aulad ki acche doston se dosti karwaiye.

Ek arbi shayar hai unhone ek sher likha aur kaha ke “Aadmi ke akhlaq ke bare me janna hai tou usse mat pucho balke ye dekho uske dosto ka Akhlaq kya hai jaise dosto ka Akhlaq hai wasse uske honge .

English me bhi ek misal hai “Birds of Same Feather Fly Together.” Ek jaise qism ke pareende ek sath hi urte hai.

Gande log ek sath rehte hai acche log bhi ek sath rahte hai, chor uchakke ek sath rahte hai har qism ka ek tabqa hota hai wo ek sath rehna pasand karta hai , tou doston se humari aur aapki shanaqt hai, lihaja achche logo se dosti karwayiye apne baccho ki.

to be continued.

School, College aur Darasgah ka kirdar Aulad ki Tarbiyat me

Aulaad ki Tarbiyat – Part 9

K). Tarbiyat ka 11th marhala :

School, College aur Darasgah ka kirdar Aulad ki Tarbiyat me

Aulaad ki tarbiyat me Maa Baap ke baad sabse aham muqam Darasgah(schools & college etc) ka hai, tou ek walidain ke liye zaruri hai ke acche Darasgah, accha School accha College, acche Madarse ka intekhab kare apni Aulad ke liye.

Hum dekhte hai ke aaj Duniya ne ye tarika banaya ke apne mazhab ke tablig ke liye wo school khol rahe hai Isaiyon(Christian) ne, Hinduon ne aur bhi mazhab walo ne apne School khol diye aur unhone in schools ko taleemi darasgah banaya taki wo apne mazhab ki tablig kare.

✦ School ke bare me Musalmano ki kotahi ka Anjam :

Aaj afsos ki baat hai ke Musalmano ne is field me koyi kaam nahi kiya, Madarse tou bahut banaye lekin darasgah ke liye kuch kaam nahi kiya, Illa mashaAllah. fir majburan humare Bacchon ko jana padta hai aise schools me, aisi Darasgaho me jaha usko aadha issai(Christian), aadha Hindu bana diya jata hai unki taleem khatam hone tak.

Jahir si baat hai kab tak ek bacha us School me jakar issaiyat(Christianity) se bachta rahegha jaha roz prayer ho rahi hai Isa Alaihi Salam (jesus christ) ke naam se aur wo khada hai 10 saal se waha ja kar wo kitne din bach payega uss takreero se, un baaton se ?.

Tou Musalmano ne ispar koyi kaam nahi kiya jab ke aaj Duniya ne apne deen ke tableeg ka markaz bana diya School ko humne is muamle me koyi mehnat nahi ki aur agar ki bhi tou deen se alag karke kiya. aur aise school khole jaha Islam ki kuch batein nahi batayi jati hai.

Gair Musalmano ne Taleem aur mazhab ko sath kar diya aur Musalmano ne alag kar diya. Hume bataiyiye aisa koi Isai(Christian) missionary school jaha church nahi? lekin hume batayiye aisa koyi school jaha Masjid ho batayiye koyi School agar aap jante ho tou? …

✦ Islamic Schools ki Jarurat :

Lihaja Apne Bacche ke liye aise School ka intekab kijiye jahan Deeni aur Dunyawi taleem dono sath chalte ho. Ab koi kahe aisa school na ho tou kya kare tou phir aise schools ka intekhab kijiye jo mukammil Neutral ho aur sath me aise ustad ka intezam kijiye jo Quran padhaye, Hadees padhaye aur isi tarah Dua Zikr-o-Azkar karwaye sikhaye. tou jaha School jayega wahi uske liye ustad ka intezam kare. lekin jaha ye dono taleem sath nahi diye jarhe ho to apne baccho ko Masjid bheje taaki wahan moulana usey Qurano Hadees padhna sikhaye aur yaad karwaye aur Deen ka Ilm de taki aapka baccha gumrahiyo se mahfuz rahe.

Isi tarah agar Musalman Zimedar log hai Jo ye takat rutba aur makam rakhte hai wo zarur aise Society qayam kare jaha School tameer kar ke iske andar Deeni aur Duniyawi taleem dono ek sath ho.

To be continue …