Maa ka Aham Kirdar

I). Tarbiyat ka 9th marhala

Maa ka Aham Kirdar

Bacche ki Tarbiyat me Maa ka kirdar bohot hi Aham hota hai yaad rakhiye , isiliye ke Maa Zimmedar hai Aulad, Shohar aur Shohar ke Gharwalo ki.

Ek Nahna Munha baccha apni Maa ko Sajda karte hue dekh wo bhi sajde me chala jata hai, halanki usko kuch bhi samjhta nahi , tou wohi Nanha Munaa Baccha jab Maa ko Jhuth bolta hua dekhta hai tou jhutha bhi ban jata hai, Chugalkhori karte hue sunta hai phone pe tou khud bhi chugliya karne lag jata hai, Dhokhadhadi sunta hai tou Dhokeybaaz ban jata hai , Maa ko Duniyaparasti me mubtela dekhta hai tou khud bhi Duniyaparast ban jata hai. Tou Maa ka Deenpar hona apne Aulad ki tarbiyat ke liye intehayi jaruri hai yaad rakhiye.

Isiliye kisi kehne walo ne badi khub baat kahi ke “Maa Bacche ka pahla Madarsa (School) hai” agar yaha wo paas ho gaya tou aagey kamiyabi hai aur yaha wo fail ho gaya tou aagey kya ho sakta hai beharhaal Allah reham karey.

Aur jab Maao ne koshish ki apne Aulad ki tarbiyat me tou humne Aisi-Aisi shakhsiyaat dekhi jo duniya ke liye misaale ban gayi , Jaise Abdulaah ibn Umar (R.A.) ! andaza lagaiye kya inke Walid Umar (RaziAllahu Anhu) ke paas itna wakt hua karta tha ke wo apne Aulad ki tarbiyat kar sakey?.. Jihad me lagey hai RasoolAllah (ﷺ) ke sath, mahino-mahino tak ghar aana nahi hota.

Usi tarha Abdullah-ibn-Abbas (R.A.), Osama bin Zaid (R.A.) aur lambi fehrist ginayi ja sakti hai aise Sahaba, Tabeyeen , Tabey Tabeyin ki jinka naam aaj hum fakr se letey hai , jinhe Allah ne Sirate Mustakeem par Roshan Chirag ki tarha tamam ummate muslima ke liye misale bana di. kya in ke walid ke paas itna wakt hua karta tha ke wo Aulaad ki tarbiyat kar sakey. Nahi ! ye tou unki Walida (Maa) ki koshish thi jo aaj tamam ummate muslima ke liye misaale hai.

Aur aaj humari maao ne wo Zimma chorr diya fir jo Aulade dikhi beharhaal uska namuna aap sirf ek gali se gujar jaiye jisme ho sakta hai ke aapke gujarne tak aap hazaar gaaliya sun le aur hazar nuksanat aur taklife aapko jhelni padey. Allah Reham karey..

Ye tou Akhlaakh ka muamla hai, ye halaat hai humare muhallo ke , aur ye haalat sirf bahar nahi balki gharo me bhi Bacche apne Maa–Baap ke sath yahi suluk karte hai, kyunki inki tarbiyat par koi dhyan diya hi nahi gaya. ye tou jangli jhaad ki tarha hai jo bus aagaye, ho gaye acche tou ho gaye na hue tou koi inka Pursane Haal nahi.

Tou Maao ne jab apni Zimmedari nibhana chor di tou humne ye natije dekhe, jabki Maa hi Aulad ka pahla madarsa hai. inko chahiye ke ye Aulad ki sabse jyada Acchi Tarbiyat karey.

✦ Maa ki galat tarbiyat ka natija :

Maaye jab tarbiyat acchi nahi karti tou Baap chahe kitna hi Deendar ho kuch asar nahi hota, Aayiye Quraan-e-Kareem se ek Misaal par gour karte hai.

Nooh (Alaihi Salato Salam) Allah Ta’ala ke barguzida Nabi hai , 950 Saal Allah ke deen ki tablig karte hai, lekin Aapki Biwi iman nahi laayi jiska natija ye hua ke apka beta bhi iman nahi laya,. jab maa buri thi tou beta bhi burayi ikhtiyar karta hai,.. yahi haal Lut (Alaihi Salam) ki Aulad ke sath bhi hua,. kyunki Maa bedeen thi lihaja Aulad bhi Bedeen nikli.

Ye do Ambiya (Alaihi Salam) Nabi they Allah ke lekin inki Biwiya Kafir thi. Natijatan inki Aulad bhi kufr ikhtiyar kar letey hai.

Tou Maa ki galat tarbiyat ka natija Nooh (Alaihi Salam) jaise Nabi ka beta bhi baat nahi maana nabi ki, tou Maaye apna role yaad rakhiye ke inki galat tarbiyat ki wajah se bacche bigadtey hai tou Roze Qayamat ye Azabe Jariya ban’ne wala hai.

✦ Maa ki Sahih Tarbiyat ka Asar :

1) Umme Sulem (Razi’Allahu Anha) ka apni Aulaad ki tarbiyat ka tazkira karte hai ke jab inke Shohar yaani Anas bin Malik (R.A.) ke walid (Maalik) they.

Ye Wakiya Allah ke Rasool (ﷺ) ke Hijrat se pahle ka hai Jab Umme Sulem (R.A.) Madina me thi aur Iman layi aur inke Shohar Maalik jab ghar aaye tou inke Shohar ne kaha ke tum tou bigad chuki ho(unke hisab se) , Mohammad (Sallallahu Alaihay Wasallam) ke Deen pe gayi ho, lekin mere betey ko mat bigadna. lekin Umme Sulem (R.A.) baar baar apne betey se kehti ke kaho Anas “la-ilalaha-illalah !” aur Anas(R.A.) Maa ki baat sunkar keh detey they “la-ilalaha-illalah”

Tou Anas (R.A.) ne Baap ki baat na mantey hue Maa ki baat suni, kyunki Maa ka Asar Baap se jyada hota hai Aulad par.

2). isi tarha Hajra (Alahi Salam) bhi ek misaal hai maao ke liye. ke kaisi tarbiyat ki thi unhone apne Bacche Ismayeel (Alaihi Salam) ki , ke jab Baap yaani Ibrahim (Alaihi Salam) 3 se 4 martaba puri zindagi me aatey hai Ismayeel (Alaihi Salam) ke paas, aur jab aakar kaha ke Qurbani ko chalo, tou Ismayeel (Alaihi Salam) ne bina koi sawal kiye kaha ke chalo, Aye mere walid! jo Aap behtar samjhtey ho, jo dekha hai Khwab me kar gujro “Satjiduni in’sha’allahu ma’sabreen!” (in’sha’allah aap mujhe sabr karte hue paoge).

Tou aisa koi Beta ho sakta hai ke Baap itne Zamane baad aaye aur kahe chalo Zuba karna hai aur chale jaye unke sath. ye tarbiyat thi Hajra (Alaihi Salam) ki apne Aulad ki. Lihaja Maa sabse pahle apne aap ko tayyar kar ley aur agar inhone apna Haq ada nahi kiya tou Roze Qayamat ye tayyar rahe apne Azab ke liye.

To be continue ..

♥ in sha Allah ! agley part 8 me hum Baap ka bhi role dekhenge Aulaad ki tarbiyat me.

Aulaad ke bich Adal (Insaf) karey

G). Tarbiyat ka 7th marhala:

Aulaad ke bich Adal (Insaf) karey:

Aaj aksar dekha jata hai ke Aulaad me Nainsafi bohot aam hai , Baap ek Bacche ko humesha Godd leta hai, koi puche ke isko kyu lete ho tou kehta hai: “Ye Baccha bohot Gora hai mujhe Pasand hai, baaki wale thodey rang me kum hai” Subhan’Allah! kya Ajib baat hai, Aap sirf Rangat ki buniyad par Baccho me Nainsafi karte ho.

“Mujhe Pehle Ladkiya hui 2-3 isiliye mujhe inse Mohabbat nahi jitni is ladke se Mohabbat hai” Subhan’Allah ! aap is tarha se Nainsafi karte ho Baccho me.

Tou is tarha se agar nainsafi karoge, yaai Adal nahi karoge tou wo bhi badey hokar Nainsafi karne lag jayenge, aur Aaj nainsafi ka kya muamla hai beharhaal bataney ki jarurat nahi , Maalo-Doulat ki taqseem me Adal (insaf) nahi karte aajkal hum, Aulaad se Mohabbat me adal nahi karte.

Jab ki “Humara Deen tou hume har haal me Adal yaani Insaf karne ka hukm deta hai.” 

Allah ke Rasool (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ke zamane me Noman bin Basheer(R.A.) farmatey hai ke “Mere walid ne ye irada kiya mujhe kuch tohfey me dey , tou meri Walida ne kaha ke jabtak tum Rasool’Allah ﷺ ko is muamle par Gawah na banao, mai is cheez ko Qabool nahi karungi.”

Dono Rasool’Allah (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ke paas gaye aur uss khatoon ne kaha ke: “ya Rasool’Allah ﷺ! Basheer apne Bete Noman ko kuch dena chahtey hai Aap is par gawah ho jaiye.”

Aap (ﷺ) ne pucha: “Basheer! kitne Bacche hai tumhare, sirf Noman hi hai ya aur bhi hai ?”

kaha ke: “aur bhi hai.” ,… pucha gaya ke : “kya Sabko dey rahe ho?”

kaha ke “Nahi! sirf Noman ko de raha hu.”

Tou Aap (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ne farmaya ke: “Mai Zulm ke muamle me Gawah nahi ban sakta”

Lihaja “Aulaad me nainsafi karna Zulm hai.” is se Ahtiyat karey warna badey hokar unka baagi ban jana lazmi hai.

H). Tarbiyat ka 8th marhala:

Aqeeda aur Acche Akhlaaq sikhaye

Aulaad ki tarbiyat me sabse aham marhala ye hai ke unhe Aqeeda aur Akhlaaq sikhaye. khud Rasool’Allah (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ka ye mamool tha ke Aap ﷺ Baccho ko Aqeeda sikhatey they.

Ek Riwayat me aata hai ke: Abdullah ibn Abbas (R.A.) farmatey hai ke (Mere Bachpan me) mai ek martaba Aap (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ke sath unth ke pichey baitha tha, tab Rasool’Allah (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ne mujhe kuch Taqeede ki aur farmaya :

“Aye Abdullah! tum Allah ke Ahqaam ki hifazat karna, wo tumhari hifazat karega , Tum Allah ke Ahqaam ki hifazat karo tou tum usey apne samne paoge, jab tum koi sawal karna(mangna) tou sirf Allah se karna, hatta ke ek riwayat me Aap ﷺ ne farmaya: ke tumhe Namaq bhi chahiye Abdullah tou Allah se mangna aur jutey Ka tasma (shoe laces) bhi chahiye tou Allah se hi talab karna , jab tumhe Madad talab karna hai tou sirf Allah hi se karna.

Fir Aagey Aap (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) farmatey hai

" Yaad Rakh! agar puri Duniya bhi tumhare haq me Aajaye aur chahe ke tumhe koi fayda dey tou wo fayda nahi pohcha sakti siway wo jo Allah ne likh rakha hai aur agar puri dunia bhi tumhare khilaf khadey ho jaye aur chahe ke tumhe nuqsaan pohchaye tou wo nuqsaan nahi pohcha sakti siway Allah ne jo likh diya hai ,.. isiliye ke Qalam rakha ja chukha hai aur syahi sukh chuki hai".

- (Mafhoom-e-Hadees; Tirmizi Sharif)

Aagey Aap (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) farmatey hai:

" Khush hali me Allah ki taraf ruju karo tou pareshan haal me wo tumhe faramosh nahi karega , yaad rakho! jo cheez tumhe nahi mili wo tumhe kabhi nahi milni thi , aur jo cheez tumhe mili wo tumse nahi cheen sakti , yaad rahe ke Allah ki madad Sabr se wabasta hai, koshish takleef ke sath hai aur aasani tangi ke sath".

- (Mafhoom-e-Hadees: Ahmed)

♥ SubhanAllah! Tou dekhiye Adullah ibn Masood (R.A) ko Allah ke Rasool (Sallllahu Alaihay Wasallam) ne kya pyari nasihate ki , lihaja hume bhi chahiye ke hum bhi apne Baccho ko Aqeeda Sikhaye.

Aayiye ek aur Akhlaq ke wakiye par gour karte hai.

Aap (ﷺ) ek martba apne Ghulaam Zaid bin Haris (R.A.) ko lekar Ek Dawat me jatey hai , Zaid bacche they isiliye wo Adab-e-Dawat se anjaan they, ek thali me khana surf kiya tha ke Zaid apne ultey hath se aur dusri taraf ke hisse ki janib badhkar khane lagey. Tou Aap (ﷺ) ne ye majra dekha aur Apne Ghulaam Zaid bin Haris ke Akhlaq ki islah dekhiye kitne Pyare Andaz se karte hai.

Aap (ﷺ) ne kaha Aye mere pyare bete! jab khana Shuru karo tou Allah ka naam lo (yaani Bismillah kaho) , Sidhey hath se khao, aur jo samne ho pehle wo khao.”

Zaid bin haris(R.A.) kehtey hai ke – “Rasool’Allah ﷺ ne jis andaz se meri Islah aur tarbiyat ki ke tamam Zindagi mera yahi usool raha aur mai khane se pehle Bismillah kehta , sidhey hath se khata aur samne wali janib se shuru karta..” (Subhan’Allah)

Tou ye nasihat hai jo hume karna hai Apne Baccho ko , kyunki Bacche tou masoom hotey hai , wo anjan hotey hai aise taur tareeko se, lihaja unke kafeel hone ke naatey hume unki islah karni hai Sunnat-e-Rasool ke mutabik aur agar baccha baar-baar samjhaane ke bawajud bhi aisi galatiya dohrata hai tou thodasa Zarb laga saktey hai taaki Aayinda wo us se Sabaq hasil karey.

♥ In sha Allah ul Azeez! Allah hume Sunnat-e-Rasool ke mutaik tarbiyat ki taufik dey.

To Be Continue …

Dost aur Ahbab ka kirdar Aulad ki Tarbiyat me.

Aulaad ki Tarbiyat – Part 10

L). Tarbiyat ka 12th marhala

Dost aur Ahbab ka kirdar Aulad ki Tarbiyat me.

Aulaad ki Tarbiyat me dost aur ahbab ka bhi aham role hai warna acche acche bacche bigad jate hain. Yaha walid ka ye kaam hai ki Humare bacche aur bachiyan kaha jate hain aur kaun kaun unka dost hai, unke Akhlaq kya hai unke muamlat kya hai wo kiske bacche hain unki kamayi kaisi hai ispar pura nazar rakhe aur dhyan dene ki zarurat hai.

Aaj kal dekha jata hai ke, baaz martaba baccho ko Maa Baap toka karte hain ke wo falah bache ke sath raho wo bohot Ameer hai. Subhan’Allah! aap Ameeri ko tarjeeh de rahe hai? jabki aap ko ye kehna chahiye ke beta Deendaro ke sath raho wo deendar hai us’se dosti karo aur bure baccho se door raho jo gandi gandi batein karte hain.

Aaj kal dekha jata hai ke, baaz martaba baccho ko Maa Baap toka karte hain ke wo falah bache ke sath raho wo bohot Ameer hai. Subhan’Allah! aap Ameeri ko tarjeeh de rahe hai? jabki aap ko ye kehna chahiye ke beta Deendaro ke sath raho wo deendar hai us’se dosti karo aur bure baccho se door raho jo gandi gandi batein karte hain.

✦ Acche dosto ka intehkhab kare

Aajkal Hum dekhte hai maaldar koun hai taaki humara baccha high society me uthey aur baithe ye sab falthu batein hain yaad rakhiye , jabki deendar baccho me rakhiye! Unke Akhlaq dekhiye kaise hain jin baccho me humara baccha aur bacchi reh rahi hain, unpar nazar rakhiye ke aise bacho me rahe jo ba-akhlaq ho ba-adab ho baqeerdar ho aur Achche khandano se taluk rakhte ho yaani nek aur deendar khandan. Warna Shaitaan Bacho ko bahut asani se uchak leta hai is muqam par.

Allah ke Rasool (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) farmate hai ek hadees ke andar ke “Aadmi apne doston ke deen par hota hai.” Matlab aadmi wo kaam karta hai Jo uske dost aur saheliyan karti hain tou aadmi apne doston ke deen par hota hai, lehaza tum me se har fard ko ye khayal karna chahiye ke woh kis se dosti kar raha hai.

Agar mai bada ho chuka tou mai tou samaj sakta hun ke mai fikr karu lekin jab bacche chote hain tou ye cheez samajte nahi hai , lihaja waledain fikr kare ke unki Aulad ka jo dost hai accha rahe aur apne aulad ki acche doston se dosti karwaiye.

Ek arbi shayar hai unhone ek sher likha aur kaha ke “Aadmi ke akhlaq ke bare me janna hai tou usse mat pucho balke ye dekho uske dosto ka Akhlaq kya hai jaise dosto ka Akhlaq hai wasse uske honge .

English me bhi ek misal hai “Birds of Same Feather Fly Together.” Ek jaise qism ke pareende ek sath hi urte hai.

Gande log ek sath rehte hai acche log bhi ek sath rahte hai, chor uchakke ek sath rahte hai har qism ka ek tabqa hota hai wo ek sath rehna pasand karta hai , tou doston se humari aur aapki shanaqt hai, lihaja achche logo se dosti karwayiye apne baccho ki.

to be continued.

Khel kood ka nazm aulad ki tarbiyat me

M).Tarbiyat ka 13th marhala

Khel kood ka nazm aulad ki tarbiyat me

Khel kood ka nazm bahut aham cheez hai yaad rakhiye, lekin aaj mukkamal is shobe ko humne khatm kar diya hai aur Khel khud ka koyi nazm hi baki nahi raha, jabki waledain unko khud aise khel khelwayen jisse unke sehat aur nashonuma hoti rahe, aur har waqt me har marhale me alag alag cheez unko khel waiyye jaise Swimming aap karwa sakte hai chote baccho ko, Cycling aap karwa sakte hai, isi tarah aise games jinse unke andar sehat barhti ho jaise aap unhki Doud (race) lagwaye, competitions karwaiye, ye bahut aham cheez hain yaad rakhiye isko mat bhulaye.

✦ Baccho ko Khel kood ki Ahmiyat :

Jab waledain baccho ke Khul kood par tawajjo nahi dete to wo mukammil khel khud me dub jata hai. jabki Waledain ko chahiye ke wo khud ko kahe chalo ab khelne ka waqt hai bete tumhara. Hum khelenge aur nahi hai tou aap dosto ko bulao hum khel karenge aapke sath ye hona chahiye. Yaad rakhiye ye nahi hoga tou bache bolenge are waledain ko kya samajh me aata hai.

Bacho me yaad rakhye extra energy hoti hai uska istemal karwana chahiye, aap nahi khelne denge tou wo kahi bhi jaker kuch bhi karke usko istemal karlenge. lihaja Usko khelne ke liye ek nazm banaiye, achcha sa aur yaad rakhiye muslim ki ek riwayat hai Aap (Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam) farmate hai “Taqatwar momin Allah ke yaha kamzor momin se zyada behtar hai.”

jabki khair tou sabme hai har momin khair hai.”lekin wo momin jo jismani aitebar se takatwar hai Allah ke nazdeek mahbub hai isliye kyun ki ibadaton me riyazaton me aur Allah ke deen ke liye zyada mehnat kar sakta hai banisbat kamzor momin ke, halaki khair tou sab me hai lekin achcha kaun hai mahbub jo zyada taqatwar ho.

tou khel kood ka inke liye nazm kare isi tarah isme competition karwaiye mukabale karwaiye.

✦ Bacchon me Competition karwaye:

Baccho me acchi sehat aur kuwwat ke liye aksar mukable karwaye, misal ke taur par aap 5-6 bhai hai jinke bache hai sabme competition lagwaiyye ke aaj jo falan kaam karega usko ye inam milega aaj jo fala khel khelegha usme jeetega usko ye inam milega, Is tarha ke competition karwaiyye.

Umar bin khattab (RaziAllahu Anhu) bacho me competition rakhwate they taaki jismani aitebar se khub nasho numa paye aur Allah ke deen ke liye jihad ke liye taiyyar ho. tou uske liye competition karte, kushti, tirandazi, tairaki (Swimming) aur ghode ki sawari ( horse riding) ke khel hote they tou ye khel unko khelwaiyye waladain is talluk se koshish kare isi tarah competitive exam me inhe le jaen, exam me inko shamil karwayen jahan tak ho sakey isse unme justaju paida hoti hain.

✦ Nasrani Badshah ke 4 sawal aur Abdullah bin Abbas (R.A.) ke Jawab.

Ek waqiya hai Ameerul Momineen Umar bin Khattab (R.A) ke Zamane me ek Nasrani badshah ne 4 sawal Ameerul Momineen ko likh kar diye aur kaha inke mujhe jawab do agar waqay me tum kitab ke hamil ho tou.

Ameerul momineen ne wo sawalat liye aur kaha Abdullah ibne Abbas (R.A) se kaha ke tum jawab de do.

Abdulla ibne Abbas (R.A) ne liya aur jawab dene lage.

Pehla sawal usne ye kiya tha ke Aisa kaun sa muqam hai duniya me jaha suraj ki roshni sirf ek bar pohchi hai aur ab qayamat tak nhi pahuchene wali ?.

Dusra sawal Kaun se 2 Judwa bhai hai Jo paida tou sath me huye aur mare bhi sath lekin umar me 100 saal ka farq tha dono me ?

Tisra faramaya Aisa kaun sa insan hai jo Qabr me ho lekin zinda ho, uski Qabr bhi Zinda ho usko lekar ghumti ho aur uske baad phir wo Qabr me se nikle aur tab bhi wo Zinda rahe.

Chautha Sawal: Aisa kaun sa jail (qaidkana) hai jaha mujrim ko sans lene ki ijazat nahi ?

ye 4 sawal badshah ne jab diye to fauran Abdulah bin Abbas ne sawal liye aur Badshah ko likh kar jawab de diye.

Abdulla bin Abbas (R.A) ne 1. pehla sawal ka jawab diya “Ye wo bahre ahmar ka hissa hai jaha se Musa (A.S.) bach nikle jo samundar khula roshni gayi ab Qayamat tak roshni nahi ja sakti samundar agaya wapas. Ab qayamat tak wahan roshni nahi jayengi.

2. Dusra sawal ka jawab diya Uzair (A.S) aur unka bhai, 3. tisre sawal ka jawab ye diya Yunus (A.S) hai jo machli ke pait me the jo ke ek qism ki qabar hai aur wo machli unhe lekar samundar me ghumti rahi, baad me lakar kinae par fenk deya .jab ke wo bahar Zinda nikle.

Aur chauta(4) sawal ka jawab diya ke “Wo Maa ki kok aur pet hai jaha bacha zinda tou hota hai magar sans nahi leta .

Jab badshah ko in sawalat ke jawab mile tou dang ho gaya aur kaha lagta hai abhi bhi inme koyi Nabi zinda hai. SubhanAllah!

To be continued …

Baap ki Dua

Aap (ﷺ) Ne Farmaya

Baap Ki Dua

Aulaad K Haq mein Aisi Hai 

Jaise Nabi Ki Dua

Ummat K Liye

Show Affection towards your children

Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) kissed Al-Hasan ibn `Ali while Al-Aqra` ibn Habis At-Tamimi was sitting with him. Al-Aqra` said, “I have ten children and have never kissed one of them.” The Prophet cast a look at him and said, “Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully.” 

(Al-Bukhari)